Why Child Discipline Measures So Often Fail
- And How You Can Put It Right!

Child discipline is one of the main family life issues facing parents today.

The topic could easily have been placed in the 'Parenting' pages of our site, but we have treated it separately because it is so important.

Many parents today suffer simply because they don't know how to discipline their children.

Many strive to impose their will by any means necessary - but soon find they are bringing up resentful, rebellious and disrespectful kids - or timid, withdrawn, low achievers.

Shouting, haranguing, humiliating and demeaning your kids in the name of child discipline does not work. It creates problems for you as a parent and for your kids - even for their teachers and often for society as well!

What does work?

The words of Lennon and McCartney come to mind:

"All you need is love!"

This is true - but let's face it - it's rather vague, perhaps even over-simplified.

After all, many of the over-strict parents of resentful children will tell you that their child discipline was meted out in the name of love.

But you DO need love. Without it, family life would be a misery.

As you will see, the main theme of this section of our site hinges on treating kids with respect, thereby demonstrating to them how they should treat you and others.

Let's take a short pause and listen to this poem written many years ago and publicized by Dale Carnegie.

(Dale Carnegie , 1888 - 1955, was an American writer who developed courses in self-improvement and interpersonal skills. His most famous book is probably 'How to Win Friends and Influence People', first published in 1936, a huge bestseller that is still popular today. One of the core ideas in his writing is that we can change other people's behavior by changing our reaction to them.)

It's called: Father Forgets

Once you get round the old-fashioned language and imagery, there's much to learn from this poem.

How would that child have grown if his Dad had continued to:

• ignore him
• berate him
• talk down to him
• and humiliate him in public?

Now, if your kids are creating merry hell in your family we're not suggesting that you don't love them or that you've been mistreating them.

We are acknowledging, however, that somewhere along the line your relationships have not developed as planned. You agree with that, which is probably why you're still reading this page!

You're looking for support. You want answers. Above all, you want a happy, peaceful and contented family life, in which you and your kids can grow and flourish together.

On the next pages we have provided articles on child discipline to help you, as well as reviews and links to the best resources available - resources we have tried-and-tested and that we know work.

If child discipline, including teen parenting advice, is one of your top family life issues, great - read on.

If, on the other hand, you're on the verge of despair with your kids and don't know where to turn, then you've come to the right place. Help is at hand. . .

More Articles To Help With Your 'Child Discipline' Issues:

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• Reward Children - And Forget Bribes!
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• What Exactly Is Tough Love Parenting? - As A Parent You Need To Know
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• Parenting Difficult Children Today
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• Help Your Kids Handle Teenage Peer Pressure
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• How To Ensure Good Teen Behavior
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• A Strategy For Parenting Troubled Teens
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• How To Respond To An Explosive Child or Defiant Teenager
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